Follow Jesus. Join the Movement. Change your world.
FBCPville Revolution Student Ministry
  • Home
  • Calendar
  • Students
    • I AM the...
    • Life in 6 Words
    • resources
  • Parents
    • Revolution Parenting
    • Resources
  • Media
    • Pictures
    • video
    • Instagram Feed

ARE YOU A PARENT WHO SHAMES??

10/12/2017

1 Comment

 
Do You parent using shame?  In this month's Online Parenting Course and short video, you will be asked to consider whether you grew up in a “Toxic Shame” environment and to consider how you react when you are hurt. I want to encourage you that though shame-based parenting is often learned, and may be the way you were parented, it can be unlearned as well.

Shame, is that terrible feeling of not fitting in, or being horribly wrong. It can happen among your teen’s friend groups, and it can happen in their place of employment. Unfortunately, though, the place it often happens the most is within the home.

Brené Brown wrote a book titled Daring Greatly: How the Courage to be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead. In that book Brown states, “When it comes to our feelings of love, belonging, and worthiness, we are most shaped by our families of origin—what we hear, what we’re told, and perhaps most importantly, how we observe our parents engaging in the world.”

Though the way we might be shaming our tween or teen might be subtle, don’t for a minute doubt they don’t feel shame when it hits them. You are the key person in your tween or teen’s life that is supposed to be a safe place for them—a place where there is no shame, but acceptance. Even teenagers will interpret doing something bad, like a bad choice they’ve been punished for making, to “You are bad.”
Be careful about the verbal and silent messages you are sending your teen. Paul wrote, “Everyone who believes in [Jesus] will not be put to shame” (Romans 10:11). If we, as parents, are not “put to shame” in Christ, our teenagers shouldn’t be “put to shame” by us. We have daily opportunities to reflect Christ to them.
Please check out this Month's online parenting class:
https://vimeo.com/parentministry/review/224800399/ba844fd3d6

1 Comment
Saint George Asbestos Removal link
7/1/2022 02:51:05 am

Great blog you have heere

Reply



Leave a Reply.

    RSS Feed

    Categories

    All

    Archives

    January 2019
    November 2018
    June 2018
    May 2018
    March 2018
    January 2018
    October 2017
    September 2017
    April 2017
    March 2017
    February 2017
    January 2017
    October 2016
    June 2016
    April 2016
    March 2016
    January 2015
    October 2014
    September 2014
    August 2014

    Author

    Matt Downing is the Student Pastor at First Baptist Church in Pflugerville, TX.   He is married to Melody and has 3 children, Caleb, Collin and Chloe.

    WANT TO GET ON THE PARENT EMAIL DISTRIBUTION LIST?
    GO HERE:

    http://lists.fbcpville-youth.org/listinfo.cgi/parents-fbcpville-youth.org
Powered by Create your own unique website with customizable templates.